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Extra Recession Pressure on Women Makes It Harder to Say No

Posted Jul 29, 2009 5:50 PM CST
By Martha Neil

Recent news that a prominent lawyer had committed suicide, apparently under extra pressure both because of having had a baby within the year and because of the dismal economy, has brought new attention to the difficulties of work/life balance.

Although it's harder than ever in such circumstances, it's also more important than ever for attorneys to apply a critical skill—saying no, writes Vanessa Lloyd Platt in a London Times article about the experiences of other women in her own professional circle.

The same ambition and drive that propels women up the career ladder can also be a negative, she adds. Self-imposed pressure to be "the best," she says, both at home and at work, as another potential problem that can add more stress and put professionals at greater risk of depression, substance abuse and even suicide.

Throughout her legal career, she writes, guilt over not doing more for her now-adult children was a constant part of her life. "My son still brings up the day I arrived too late to hear his tuba debut at the school concert because of a needy client who would not get off the telephone."

Related coverage:

ABAJournal.com: "Depressed After 3rd Child’s Birth, Successful Partner Committed Suicide"

London Times: "Teach girls to be lawyers, doctors—and mothers"

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B. McLeod
Jul 30, 2009 7:09 AM CST

Doesn’t the recession and job picture make it harder for everyone to “say no”?

Surely the author does not contend that male attorneys have a greater ability to decline assignments without job or client-development consequences?

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tim
Jul 30, 2009 8:53 AM CST

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Asman
Jul 30, 2009 2:50 PM CST

I and all of the men I have spoken to have volunteered to accept a pink slip so that we can enjoy the bucolic rigors of the soup kitchen and the shelter. It seemed like the chivalrous thing to do. My wife and kids don’t necessarily share this opinion, but when I told the that Vanessa Lloyd Platt said its harder for women, they reluctantly relented. It is just so unfair that these poor women who have accepted $160K starting salaries now feel that they now need to toil and compromise in order to keep those emoluments.

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DR
Jul 30, 2009 8:35 PM CST

I said it before and I’ll say it again…the key (for me at least) is having a supportive domestic partner.  I honestly couldn’t do everything alone (lawyering, childrearing, housekeeping, basic life stuff) without a committed spouse who shared in the responsibilities.  I read the London Times article and I’m still depressed that women accept the concept that they have to do everything.  It’s called teamwork, people! 

Not that it isn’t hard sometimes, because it is.  But I can say that it is equally hard for my spouse…who chooses to be as involved in our family life as possible. 

By the way, Asman, the pressure is the same whether you’re making 40k or 160k.  Work is work.

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Asman
Jul 31, 2009 8:54 AM CST

“Work is work”  DR truer words were never spoken. However, articles like this give the impression that many do not understand that to be true. I used the $160K figure because I assumed that was the stratum upon which Ms. Lloyd-Platt and her “professional circle” perch. Could be wrong, but I doubt it.

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