Law Practice
Law Firm Mentor: Friend or Foe?
Posted Jan 23, 2008 12:33 PM CST
By Martha Neil
To a starry-eyed new associate or young partner, a law firm mentor can be one of the big benefits of starting out in practice with far more seasoned colleagues.
However, not every mentor is an associate's friend. And, from the mentor's standpoint, too, having an associate as a protege may require the senior lawyer to watch his or her back, points out Texas Lawyer (sub. req.) in a column reprinted by New York Lawyer (reg. req.).
Author James Dolan, a coach and psychotherapist, recounts the experience of a 32-year-old new partner, who had expected his mentor to trumpet the fact that he had brought a client in to the firm. Instead, he was stunned to discover that the partner had claimed credit himself for the acquisition. A seasoned mentor that Dolan knows, by contrast, was amazed to overhear her current mentee questioning her competence, in a hallway conversation.
For associates seeking a mentee, Dolan advises doing so with one's eyes open:
"There must be a good match between protege and mentor, so if a new lawyer finds himself in conversations with a potential mentor about matters pertaining to interests other than law practice, there is the possibility of developing the relationship from there," he writes. "Does the potential mentor have a reasonably long track record of relative success? Is he clear about his own failures and shortcomings? Does he appear judgmental, or is he clear about mistakes and their consequences without personalizing them?"
On the other side of the equation, a mentor needs to remember that a mentee will grow up professionally and leave the nest, he continues. "If the protege breaks away, the mentor has succeeded and helped guide a unique lawyer into the field."

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Andrea
Jan 25, 2008 7:29 AM CST
Beware of mentors who want something more. When I started at a mid-size NY firm 15 years ago, we didn’t have a formal mentoring program. However, 3 partners (1 in litigation, 1 in corporate/M&A and 1 in tax) all wanted me to work for them. Of course, I did what they said and I rotated through their groups. Well let me tell you they were helpful at work, but all of them wanted some thing more after work (and 2 of them were married). Since I was in my own relationship (now married), I respectfully kept declining the invites, and wouldn’t you know it, after 3 years with the firm, we parted ways. Now I have my own small practice at home, and my family keeps me busy. You must watch out for horny partners looking for extracurricular activities under the guise of mentoring. It may not always happen, but it is something for women to look out for.
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Horace
Jan 25, 2008 7:52 AM CST
Ah yes, the case of the mentulate mentor.
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Associate
Jan 25, 2008 2:47 PM CST
My mentor is definitely a foe. She really wanted to be my mentor but once I started, the novelty of being my mentor faded and she quickly forgot about me. The worst part is that she makes up stories about my performance and tells them to the other partners, who of course, believe her over me. I am still stunned about the lies she has told.
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