Tales of addiction: What every attorney should know about alcohol and substance abuse
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Sarah Weinstein, a former lawyer who’s now a psychotherapist based in Berkeley, California, says, “Though denial is an issue for some, it is actually a myth that the majority of those with substance use disorders are in denial.”
When she works with clients who may have an addiction problem, she asks the clients to consider the three Cs: control, compulsion and consequences.
- Control refers to the out-of-control use and typically more use than is intended. For example, do you regularly set out to have “just one drink” at your firm’s happy hour but often find yourself imbibing many more?
- Compulsion refers to spending a lot of time, energy and mental space obtaining, using and recovering from use. Consider whether your weekly calendar is full of events in which alcohol will be in plentiful supply and/or whether you frequently socialize with people who engage in heavy drinking or substance use. This is especially important for those who tend to compare their drinking to others as a means to normalizing their use.
- Consequences refer to the negative social, professional, legal, economic and interpersonal effects of continued use. A common example is continuing to use despite experiencing blackouts or other serious losses of physical or emotional control that have put in jeopardy personal relationships, safety or professional standing.
Weinstein emphasizes you do not have to wait until you think you are addicted before seeking help. It’s important to remember addiction is a disease. “I often tell my clients that sometimes we need two minds to help figure out one person’s challenging thoughts or situation,” she says.
HOW TO HELP
Often, attorneys are reluctant to approach a colleague who may be struggling because it’s uncomfortable and we don’t want to wrongfully accuse someone of alcohol or substance abuse. The hesitancy is understandable. Buchanan of the Texas Lawyers’ Assistance Program says lawyers are keen on protecting their reputations, so they’ll go to phenomenal lengths to hide their use. So by the time the overt signs of problems are noticeable, the person is typically in the advanced stage of alcohol and substance use disorder.
Buchanan provides these suggestions: First, if you are concerned about another lawyer, check in with your gut. If you have a gut feeling, there’s likely a problem. It is important to remember it is not the job of the concerned person to diagnose the problem. Having a gut feeling someone is struggling is enough. This is especially true if you are familiar with the person.
Second, contact your state lawyers’ assistance program. (The ABA Commission on Lawyer Assistance Programs has an online state-by-state directory. Go to ambar.org/colap, then click “LAP Directory.”) The program is anonymous, and you do not have to give your name or the name of the person you are calling about. A LAP counselor can coach you on how to address the situation and, if appropriate, how to have the difficult conversation. Another resource the ABA has is the Well-Being Toolkit For Lawyers & Legal Employers.
When approaching a troubled individual, it’s important to have an open mind and heart. You can establish a dialogue by saying, “You’re my friend; I respect you; I admire you.” Then state the facts. For example, “I’ve known you for 10 years; and over the last six months, I noticed that you often look sad, you’re showing up late and not returning calls. I am worried. What is going on? Talk to me.”
After you state the facts, stop talking and listen. Buchanan says this is often the hardest part—to simply sit quietly and listen, to see whether the troubled individual will open up to you. Often, it may be necessary to check back with the person more than once before they are ready to get help.
Tara M. van Brederode, assistant director for attorney discipline at the Iowa Supreme Court’s Office of Professional Regulation, says common warning signs a lawyer may be in need of help include missing hearings or deadlines and neglecting communication responsibilities. Other warning signs include an alcohol- or substance-related criminal charge such as a DUI. “Suspension of a law license doesn’t address the underlying problems,” she says. “If anything, it compounds it. It’s a blunt-edge system for dealing with these problems.”
Van Brederode emphasizes the sooner the attorney seeks help, the more options may be available to regulators. For example, in many states, if a lawyer in disciplinary trouble gets help before clients are actually harmed, the lawyer can work out a deferral agreement in which they get help, then report back to the disciplinary board on progress. As long as the lawyer complies, the matter is closed after a year. In these situations, there is no sanction and no public record.
It’s important for lawyers to remember it’s possible to live a healthy, productive and thriving life by managing substance and alcohol issues. Every day thousands are recovering from substance abuse disorders and are respected members of the legal profession.
Jeena Cho consults with Am Law 200 firms, focusing on strategies for stress management, resiliency training, mindfulness and meditation. She is the co-author of The Anxious Lawyer and practices bankruptcy law with her husband at the JC Law Group in San Francisco.